I interviewed virginity auctioner Elizabeth Raine, and we busted a bunch of virginity myths along the way. Here’s an excerpt. Read the whole thing at Nerve.

Which brings me to the question of what “virginity” means to you. What are you auctioning? I think losing virginity is having heterosexual intercourse for the first time. If you are referring to another type of intercourse it needs to be clarified, for instance “I lost my oral virginity.”
So what do you think the appeal or fascination is for a guy? What do you think they think they’re buying? For some reason or another it is a sexual fantasy [to have a virgin]. In some cases, I think they want to take on the role of sexual teacher. In others, they just want to try something new. And then there are some men who are just attracted to the idea of an untouched woman.
I always assumed it was the desire for “first penis in” like planting your flag on uncharted territory or something.  Men are very competitive and territorial creatures.
I sometimes think that if men are stupid enough to pay for a social construct, let them. I can’t disagree with that.
I really hate the mythology virginity auctions perpetuate. As long as there hasn’t been a penis inside a woman, she and her body have value. But once that happens, she has none. No one auctions off the second time they have intercourse.  Well that’s not necessarily true, women with all levels of sexual experience are selling sex somewhere. I’m not saying that makes it right, but I do think it is more of a continuum than you think. Men preferring less ‘promiscuous’ women is not a phenomenon limited to virgins.
They are, but adding the #virginity seems to increase the value exponentially. I’m not sure Natalie would have gotten much interest if she had already had intercourse and was offering the second time to a lucky bidder. Do you? I agree the value is inflated. Here is one more idea: The first time is a mystery. So, being in the position of the virgin, if you are going to lose it under these circumstances, it should pay well.

I interviewed virginity auctioner Elizabeth Raine, and we busted a bunch of virginity myths along the way. Here’s an excerpt. Read the whole thing at Nerve.

Which brings me to the question of what “virginity” means to you. What are you auctioning?
I think losing virginity is having heterosexual intercourse for the first time. If you are referring to another type of intercourse it needs to be clarified, for instance “I lost my oral virginity.”

So what do you think the appeal or fascination is for a guy? What do you think they think they’re buying?
For some reason or another it is a sexual fantasy [to have a virgin]. In some cases, I think they want to take on the role of sexual teacher. In others, they just want to try something new. And then there are some men who are just attracted to the idea of an untouched woman.

I always assumed it was the desire for “first penis in” like planting your flag on uncharted territory or something. 
Men are very competitive and territorial creatures.

I sometimes think that if men are stupid enough to pay for a social construct, let them.
I can’t disagree with that.

I really hate the mythology virginity auctions perpetuate. As long as there hasn’t been a penis inside a woman, she and her body have value. But once that happens, she has none. No one auctions off the second time they have intercourse. 
Well that’s not necessarily true, women with all levels of sexual experience are selling sex somewhere. I’m not saying that makes it right, but I do think it is more of a continuum than you think. Men preferring less ‘promiscuous’ women is not a phenomenon limited to virgins.

They are, but adding the #virginity seems to increase the value exponentially. I’m not sure Natalie would have gotten much interest if she had already had intercourse and was offering the second time to a lucky bidder. Do you?
I agree the value is inflated. Here is one more idea: The first time is a mystery. So, being in the position of the virgin, if you are going to lose it under these circumstances, it should pay well.

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dotellstories:

I remember as a young girl watching movies with my parents and a sex scene would come on. I would love to look at my parents’ face to see if they had any reaction and if they were uncomfortable because my sister and I were in the room. I grew up feeling very confident about my sexuality. I felt…

tigrasevaddict

Anonymous asked:

Lost your Virginity to a woman? Wtf? How do you lose your virginity to a woman? Vriginity is broken when a penis enters a vagina, the hymen is broken, are you dumb?

stripperwife answered:

I am going to answer this as nicely as possible, even though I would love to rip you a new asshole due to your ignorance and pure stupidity in regards to female biology.

Virginity is not lost when a penis enters a vagina. Virginity is lost when a person wants it to be lost.
Take rape victims for example. If that was their first time being involved in a sexual act that does not mean they cannot lose their virginity at a later point to someone of their choosing. Virginity is purely a concept. It is not a real thing. It cannot be “taken”. Only given.

Also. The hymen is simply a thin piece of skin in the vagina. It does not take a penis to tear it. You can tear it by riding a bicycle, doing gymnastics, inserting a tampon etc.
A thin piece of flesh inside my vagina is sure as fuck not going to decide when or when I did not lose my virginity.

It seems to me that you must be a man. It seems to me that you feel that you are entitled because you have a penis. You are not. Your penis means shit. You do not get to decide when a person feels as though they “lost” their virginity.

A lesbian couple can lose their virginity to each other. A gay couple can lose their virginity to each other. A straight couple can lose their virginity to each other.

I think you should get your head out of your ass.

Really good information and answer, although we probably would have been a little more polite about it. Maybe that’s the Canadian in us.

katjalovee:

carlachristinee:

THIS.

Amen.

thankyouartschoolstole

Virginity as a Performance Art Piece

Of two minds on this art school ‘de-virginizing’ performance: Public sex as art is old hat. Doing it to really explore what, if anything, changes when a body is penetrated by a penis for the first time is interesting.

thankyouartschoolstole:

Virginity is a performance created by the species Human:Male to suit a Human:Male’s needs to value the self worth of the Human:Males sexual partner. 

- A little context for “Art School Stole My Virginity”-

The idea of sleeping with someone I actually care about is terrifying. That kind of emotional intimacy feels as if someone would be invading my personal space, knowing me too deeply, seeing parts of myself that I don’t necessarily want them to know, to memorize and be familiar with.

hecanonlyholdherforsolong

hecanonlyholdherforsolong:

Isn’t it interesting how there’s a physical way of “knowing” a female is not a virgin but for males there’s no physical evidence. Hearing the phase “popping the cherry” is in reference to a females hymen being torn but it can actually happen without any penetration. There’s nothing like that for…

There’s actually NO WAY to physically tell if a woman is a virgin. The state of her hymen tells you as much as the state of a guy’s penis. Hundreds of years ago, they tested virginity by measuring a woman’s head with string. How it’s hymens, but it means as much as the string. This is because men HAVE TO KNOW if a woman is a virgin, and they’ll believe any test that looks like it will give them that power.