To me, what had transpired was a casual exchange between friends. Because he’d laughed at my jokes and called himself a feminist, I naively assumed we were on the same page. But we didn’t talk about sex before actually having sex, and as anyone who isn’t an idiot will tell you, a big part of having a safe, healthy, satisfying sex life is constant communication. When you’re younger and inexperienced, it can sound more fun and spontaneous to just claw at someone’s pants until they come and damn the consequences. It’s easy to overlook the sometimes boring technical questions that make sex safe and enjoyable for both partners, questions like: Are we moving too fast? What does consent mean to you? How many drinks have you had? Have you been tested recently? What’s your preferred method of contraception? What kind of sex are you into? What are your likes/dislikes? Do you really want to be having sex with me right now? We could just go back to groping each other and drinking tea. Really. I’m good with that.
"How Not To Lose Your Virginity" Consent is for everyone.
Tottenville should just be an all boys school considering this dress code is only affecting the girls.
I’m going to assume you’re asking about penetration of the vagina with sex toys (so if you’re not, apologies). The thing about bleeding is that it’s basically a reflection of how sensitive the tissue is at that time, so it’s hard to know whether you’ll bleed during intercourse or not.
As I wrote in this Ask Trixie post:
"It depends on various factors, like whether you’re sufficiently aroused and lubricated, how rough your partner is, how elastic your hymen is, or whether you have any medical conditions that might cause bleeding. Sometimes there’s a lot of blood, sometimes there’s some spotting and just as often there’s no blood at all (which is how it went for me)."
Either way, seeing blood has nothing to do with whether you’re a virgin or not. You get to decide what counts: sex toys? penises? fingers? if you want to count anything or not.
That a woman’s sexual history has any bearing on her worth as a human being.
That the state of the hymen can tell you anything about a person’s sexual history.
That vaginal bleeding during intercourse means the person is a virgin.
That there is an actual single definition of virginity, and that virginity is an actual real thing. Becoming sexual is an important milestone, but virginity is just a concept with no concrete meaning or definition. Its meaning has changed over the centuries and we give it the meaning we choose to give it.
That losing your virginity can only happen through intercourse.
That people who are virgins are inexperienced or ignorant about sex, or are prudes, or are losers, or are especially virtuous people, or any other generalization based on sexual history.
That people who are not virgins are especially sexually experienced, or slutty, or studs, or impure or ruined.
That how, when, where, why and with whom you have sex with for the first time is the defining aspect of your morality, character, future or worth.
That being penetrated by a penis through rape has anything to do with sex (it’s assault) and therefore has anything to do with losing virginity.
That whether or not someone is a virgin can be determined in any way except talking about it with them (although they’re not obligated to share this information)
That everyone is having lots of sex, younger and more often than you are.
There are lots more…so leave repost and leave your own comments….
That’s entirely up to the person having the sex. Some gay people reject the idea of virginity because they feel it only refers to hetero sex. Others define virginity in their own ways. Penetration is only one of the many ways to think about what sex is.